Okay so I have questions and I figure here is a good place to put them out there.
1. Circumcise- I know plenty of people who have done it, but is it harder to keep clean or better for HIM to just leave it and deal with it?
2. How can I prepare a ONE year old to be a sister?
3. What do you do when under garments stop fitting? I only have 8 weeks left.
4. pee blocking tent or just a whip?
Okay I have many more but my brain has frozen up.
Please HELP. To me this is more personl than facebook.
1- We circumcised so I don't know how hard it is to keep clean if they aren't. But from what I have been told, you have to make sure that it gets cleaned appropriately. Some people don't have to clean it much, but some do. So, just in case he might be one of those ones that have to keep it clean, you want to make sure he knows how. And just keep in mind when he gets older it might be something that he is self-conscious about. Typically they say that if Dad is, do. If not, don't.
ReplyDelete2- Show her babies, lots and lots of babies. Talk to her. It might seem like she doesn't understand, but she will understand more than you think.
3- They have maternity garments. I never wore the tops, just the bottoms. They are so much more comfortable than trying to fit in the ones you have. Or, since you have 8 weeks left, make due? I dunno. That's a toughie.
4- We never did a pee blocking tent. The only time that Nathan peed when we were changing his diaper was when Amelia was standing by his head and he got her in the face. I think he did it on purpose. lol But after that I always would open his diaper (kinda like checking for poo) then cover back up as I got the other diaper ready and under his butt. Then pulled the top one off and pulled the clean one on. Fast and effective. The initial blast of cold had him do his business while I got the other diaper ready if any business was to be done.
1. Circumcise- I know plenty of people who have done it, but is it harder to keep clean or better for HIM to just leave it and deal with it?
ReplyDeleteI did alot of reading on this and decided it was better for him in the long run if we just left him intact.
My parents wanted us to circumcise him because of religious reasons but again i did alot of reading and we are a religion that goes off the new testament not the old, and the new testament says not to.
Its not hard to take care of at all, in fact I think its easier with him being intact, there is no special cleaning you just wipe it off on the outside like you would clean a finger.
The whole dad thing i think is a bunch of baloney, when they are little it no way looks like dad circumcised or not and by the time he will be old enough that it may look like dad I highly doubt they will compare.
The country as a whole right now is roughly 50/50 so even the locker room argument isn't the same as when our husbands were in school.
2. How can I prepare a ONE year old to be a sister?
We did alot of reading about new babies and talking to her, we were fortunate that friends of ours had their baby about a month before we had ours and she did really well, she learned gentle at an early age because of the dog so it tied right it.
3. What do you do when under garments stop fitting? I only have 8 weeks left.
I can't really help with this one, but my gut would be to get a bigger size if that is an option.
4. pee blocking tent or just a whip?
we never used anything either, we would just open his diaper let some air get to him and then cover him right back up with the diaper and he typically would pee once he was covered back up. once he was done we would change the diaper. Diapers that had only been peed in we would have another one under him already and just change him really fast.
Thank you Ladies. Mike doesn't like talking about circumcision because he is a guy.Thank you!
ReplyDelete1. I circumcised and also heard its better for them in the long run. Hubby is so we didn't have to think about it, we were doing it.
ReplyDelete2. Prepair her by talking it with her, tell her about your belly let her feel your belly, books, point out babies, they will show there way of knowing sometimes by acting out as well, why she might be be a terrior already from what I saw you posted in your facebook page.
3. undergarments try and go bigger, live with what it until you can or they do sell preggo ones.
4. pee tent or wipe. I say wipe its already out and going to be used one less you thing you have to grab and wash worry about...if anything make one if you want or wipe works just fine. just make sure esp the first few weeks as soon as that diaper comes off put a wipe or whatever over it lol
I don't have boys, but I've got 13 nephews (ages 4 to 11).
ReplyDelete1. If Ava had been a boy I would not have. Like Jess said it's about 50/50 now not so much what dad is. In Japan the guy botched a few and it was more pain and hassle for everyone (but mostly more pain for the little boy). I wouldn't do it mostly because it would hurt so bad, and it's not medically necessary. There was an incident at bathtime at my sister's place with some cousins who were and weren't. One boy said his cousin had a 'silly willy' and the moms just explained that they were different. Like people. Everyone's different.
2. I think the babies idea is good. Teaching her to be gentle with stuffed animals/baby dolls/dogs/christmas ornaments/other precious or fragile things is good. Also, it's hard, but make sure that she is not forgotten. It's SO HARD when you have a newborn but you can't forget your other children need you too and don't want to feel replaced. Your attitude towards them as still your child whose loved and needed goes a long way towards how they feel about the new baby.
3. I always had maternity garments too. But towards the end (probably around where you are) I had to stop wearing even those every day because they were so tight. NOTHING fit at all and I just wanted to be comfortable. Nursing garments are tricky with the cut, btw. But I wear them because I don't like just stretching out regular ones.
4. It's not the cold air. It's that they have to go and once you take the diaper off, they go. Girls do it too. I did EC with all my girls (or am doing it with Ava :) Can't tell you how many times they'd start crying for NO reason whatsoever and wouldn't stop. After a few minutes I'd check the diaper and it was dry, but she'd pee almost immediately once I opened it up.
Also, I just don't like poop. So it goes in the toilet. Not wrapped up in a little plastic ball to sit in my house or on my patio until it goes to the garbage. I use gdaipers because I hate the feel of disposables (and smell) and cloth is too much laundry for me :) HA!
I started EC at different times and in different ways with each girl depending on my life and what was goign on with moves, tyler, etc. But Ava's still in diapers most of the day. (Working on having 3 kids still. . . so I just change her often and giver her a little diaper free hangout time when I have a few minutes and a waterproof pad handy :) I use diapers when I left the girls with friends, babysitters, mamasan, or Tyler. But with me, by the time they were 9-12 months old they could do the sign for potty (I used the ASL "Restroom" sign so it looked like they were flapping their arm. easier for babies than the twist motion for toilet). I wasn't worried about changing wet diapers, I just loved that I could put poop directly in the toilet/potty/tupperware-turned-potty (clearly labeled as such! :)
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http://www.gdiapers.com
Okay so I have questions and I figure here is a good place to put them out there.
ReplyDelete1. Circumcise- I know plenty of people who have done it, but is it harder to keep clean or better for HIM to just leave it and deal with it?
I always ask the parents, "have you seen the circumstraint?" hard table they strap the baby down to...why do they need to be tied down if "it doesn't hurt?". I have 3 boys 20month-7year never had a problem with any of them. NO infections, no issues. They don't match Dad but they know why. We explained it to them as they have asked and if they choose to get snipped later we would support it. I think one day they will thank us...lots of nerve endings there!
2. How can I prepare a ONE year old to be a sister? LOVE HER! Her world will be rocked but she will do fine. We always busted out the premie cabbage patch doll a couple weeks ahead of due date. I would "nurse it" explain what I would be doing and then ask them to help the baby eat by keeping their inside voice and finding rest time activities.I would have them get their baby and cuddle it. Within a few weeks they were draggin it aroundthe bhouse by its patch of hair and not interested in me or the baby when nursing. They did get to watch more TV the first 3 months.
3. What do you do when under garments stop fitting? I only have 8 weeks left.
Buy MENS! I slept in mens...the waistband is SO MUCH MORE COMFY! They are too bulky for me to wear out and about but I wore them to sleep in all the time. I just had to switch to underwear the last coupe of weeks during the day because I spotted and had terrible bladder control! TMI- sorry! I dont know what body they designed maternity and nursing garments for but I will tell you it wasn't anything like mine! I just wore the simple cotton top and pulled everything down to nurse. I however am not as endowed as you dear friend!
Wow thank you everyone for the information. I have gotten some really great advise. I will post in a few days and tell you how things are going. Little Man won't get here till End of August so we have some time.
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